Every now and then we get an email from a reader that is just too bizarre to keep to ourselves. Just today, we had a reader who found himself so inspired by the controversy surrounding Chinabounder that he decided to write about his own experiences and send it in to us. We couldn’t resist sharing it with you!
WHY FOREIGNERS HAVE SUCH A HARD TIME TRYING TO BE LOYAL IN RELATIONSHIPS?
“Just because something is not talked about does not mean it does not happen”
I am an expat living in Shanghai. Like most expats in their 30s, I came by the hand of my fiancee, just as others come with wives [with them here or left abroad] or girlfriends in different stages of their relationships. About a year after I came to China, and after being caught in several occasions cheating, I decided to finish that relationship and began a life of debauchery. This story is obviously no different than the ones most of the foreigners here could tell you.
But they won’t, we won’t, because after all, who would kill the chicken of the golden eggs?
Despise some foreignes like the infamous chinabounder, the rest of us keep a low profile. After all, a great deal of our success depends on our ability to hide our real selfs from others. While I met some girls who would agree to simply be a sex partner, in most cases they want exclusivity. However, me [we?] like variety, and the only way we will get it is using lies and deception.
There is a misconception about the reasons why Chinese girls are attracted to foreigners, and about why foreigners have such success in bedding Chinese girls. Chinese people asked often think about money or greencards, but they do not realize that the real reason is the simple fact that we are all attracted to what is new and different.
The reality is that is extremely easy for us foreigners to find chinese girls, and therein lies the fact we can not be loyal. Without any intention to sound “macho” I always use the following example: “Why would you drive the same car if you can change cars whenever you like?”. Women are not objects, granted, but if you are in for the sole purpose of sex, the comparison makes sense.
Foreigners cheat because they can. Chinese girls want to experience new things. Is a great deal for both parties, as long as the girls don’t hope for charming princes in white horses.
Editor’s note: All readers living similar lives should be reminded to take responsibility for their own sexual health and that of their partners by means of condoms.
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