By Horace Lu
A Shenzhen public servant surnamed Liao is reported to have committed serious domestic violence against his parents and older sister. Liao’s, parents who are both in their 60s, were beaten recently during a visit to their son’s home. Liao’s mother, whose Hunan dialect and chronic headaches were enough to send Liao into a rage, was recently told by her son, “Why don’t you get hit by a car and just die?”
During a recent visit she made to do housework for Liao and look after her newborn grandson, Liao’s mother finally decided she’d had enough, and left to go to her daughter’s home.
Later, Liao’s father came to visit Liao, expecting to repair the mother-son relationship, but was beaten instead, and was left with a bleeding left shoulder after being bitten by Liao.
Liao’s elder sister has also been slapped by her younger brother, which is a cruel way to repay her, considering the fact that she financially supported Liao throughout his education.
No fury like a woman scorned
According to Liao’s family, Liao used to be a regular and loving member of their family. When he found a job with telecommunications giant Huawei in 2007, he often telephoned his parents and had dinner with his older sister.
However, things changed after Liao got married. Liao’s wife, surnamed Li, was regarded by Liao’s family as a difficult person to get along with. Li thought Liao’s family was poor and blamed Liao’s parents for not educating their son well enough. The couple often quarreled, and Liao would sometimes telephone his parents to hurl abuses after heated arguments with his spouse.
Liao’s family believed that it was his wife who changed their son.
Gentleman at work
However, Liao’s colleagues and people from his hometown speak highly of him.
Beginning his work as a public servant in 2010, Liao’s colleagues considered him quite a gentleman, and skilled when it came to dealing with people.
Journalists from Southern Metropolis Daily even discovered that Liao has a lawyer qualification, and provides legal assistance to disadvantaged groups.
I am sorry
Beijng Youth Daily reports that Liao has apologized to his parents for the violence after his deeds were exposed.
Liao telephoned his parents and begged for forgiveness after his story went public. His parents as well and his elder sister have forgiven him, and also hope the public to give him a chance to mend his fault.
In a follow-up report from Southern Metropolis Daily, Liao also said he would bear all the consequences and that his behavior deserves condemnation. In the interview, he blames miscommunication and social pressure as the cause of all violence.
He also says he is not a master of Beijing University as previous reports have said. He did once study in Beida, but he got his master degree in a university in Tianjin.
A psychologist based in Hong Kong tells Southern Metropolis Daily that Liao’s problem is because his “ego identity” has not been constructed yet.
He said that Liao is an extremely depressed person and cannot manage his emotions well. Emotions which, the psychologist declares, can only be released when Liao beats his family members. Since his family are the closest to him, they give him the most sense of safety, and they serve as an outlet for his subconscious.
The public shouldn’t put too much pressure on him, the psychologist says, and should be tolerant and forgiving. In a country that attaches so much importance to filial piety, there’s little chance that the public is in going to take the enlightened perspective when it comes to beating one’s parents.