By Michael Evans
A recent poll has found that 33 percent of Chinese singles are afraid of getting married. According to Women of China:
The report was released by China’s dating website Baihe.com before the Spring Festival. According to it, women were afraid of marriage mainly because they feared the third person-parties in marriage and domestic violence, while men were afraid of marriage generally because they didn’t have houses or couldn’t afford the fees for marriage, or to support a family.
Conflicting views on money were a recurring theme of the survey’s results. It found that while a majority of women expected their husbands to earn at least twice as much as they did, 53 percent of women (and 17 percent of men) said that the wife should control the family finances. At the same time, 34 percent of women said they would also keep a separate bank account without telling their husbands (to be fair, 25 percent of men said the same thing).
The poll also ranked professions based on desirability for marriage. Actresses, flight attendants, and tour guides were the least desired by men, while women were least interested in farmers and the self-employed. Want China Times explains:
The survey […] suggests that a potential partner’s stability in love and career is paramount to both men and women, with men revealing a preference for partners in professions with lesser potential for flirting, and women preferring to marry men with a stable income.
I’ve heard some parents lament that they feel their daughter’s desire to wait to find a good marriage reflects poorly on them as parents. To the contrary! Your daughter’s independent spirit is a reflection of the good work you did to help her gain an education.
Now that she can survive on she own, she yearns for all the things that every human being yearns for once her survival needs are met: to be truly loved, to have dreams, to have meaning in life.