All is not well in the bedroom for legions of young men and women across China. Sexually frustrated women are now flocking to Shanghai seeking 2,500 yuan sex tutorials to inspire their love lives, while men without female companionship, naturally, have taken to the internet to complain about their lonely, sexless existence.
According to Foreign Policy, many of China’s lonely, young internet users have been comparing themselves to the doomed fictional character Jay Gatsby, as the “theme of trying to win a girl with money, and ultimately falling short, is painfully familiar to China’s diaosi generation”.
In China’s Internet lingo, Gatsby is a diaosi — a nobody. Initially meaning “loser,” diaosi has been re-appropriated by younger generations of Chinese who are dissatisfied with the definition of success in a society where ‘winning’ often requires social connections and parental help. Though diaosi implies a degree of social failure, self-identified diaosi tend to be young men — students or young professionals working in information technology, media, or marketing — struggling to turn their expensive education into well-paid jobs that will allow them to win the hearts and hands of their crushes.
Chinese web users have paid particular attention to The Great Gatsby’s exploration of class divisions. In China, many a would-be Gatsby have failed in love, faced unequal competition in the education system and the job market, and endured contempt from the more established class. A May 2013 survey of over 35,000 single Chinese women, conducted by the web portal iFeng, found that self-made Chinese men from small cities or rural areas were surprisingly unpopularon the marriage market. They are known as “phoenix men” because of their rise from poverty to wealth, giving them an exalted status among parents and small-city friends. But survey respondents said these men lack confidence and prioritize their extended family over their wives.
Meanwhile, women across China with lackluster love lives are actively seeking to help themselves through two-day sex courses offered in Shanghai, according to Reuters.
The two-day tutorials are not cheap at 2,500 yuan ($420), more than half the average monthly wage in Shanghai. But a rising number of women are signing up for Ma’s classes and similar sessions in other cities to learn about the anatomy, psychology and techniques of intimacy.
“I had absolutely no sex education at all. I thought adult male bodies looked the same as baby boys,’” one 30 year old applicant said. “I want to understand myself and the realities of sex.”
Sexual frustration, however, is not a new trend in China. A lack of education and willingness to openly discuss sex throughout the country has led to “scaremongering” and the encouragement of abstinence among China’s youth.
Recently, schools across China have gotten in some hot water after demanding that their students sign an Agreement of ‘Moral Education’ prohibiting them from engaging in ‘puppy love’, while 75 percent of young singles in Jiangsu province have complained about not being kissed in over three years.
All in all, not a good combination for China, a place considered the fourth ‘horniest’ country in the world.
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